Soulmate Imposters: Why Your Relationship Was Doomed Before It Even Started
It was all so beautiful. Perhaps you were getting over your last relationship or taking a break from dating altogether. Maybe you were in a relationship that was heading south. Suddenly another soul pops up and expresses an interest in getting to know you on a deeper level. Skeptically you take the bait, and slowly begin the process of revealing yourself-one layer at a time. You can’t help but notice that seemingly random soul is doing, saying, and being all the right things, which feels amazing.
You even question, “could this be my soulmate?”
You settle in as much as they do. Your “I’s” become “We”. You develop small routines. Sure, it’s happening quickly, but you attribute that to how in tune the two of you are with each other. This is how it’s supposed to feel, right?
Until something changes. One day your partner is different. A bit detached in ways that they weren’t last week. They cancel plans or switch up the routine a few times the following week. Sure, they’ve been stressed out by increased demands from home or work, but by week 3 you distinctly feel like you are in a different relationship. You’ve never had a “hard talk” before, so you’re hesitant to call major attention to a potential flaw. You nervously inquire about the shift and your partner looks at…
